Why 'Love Myself' Is A Feminist Anthem.
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Apart from being an amazingly fun and catchy song, if you choose to, 'Love Myself' can represent a much more deep and significant issue. Female masturbation. Now, if you've made it this far into the post, well done! The words 'Female masturbation' are taboo, un-talked about and looked down upon, so it's understandable if you felt weird reading these words. Despite the awkwardness that comes with talking about this subject, it is such an important thing to discuss. Here's why.
While male self pleasure is widely accepted as something all boys will do, and are expected to do as soon as, or before, they reach puberty, female pleasure is shunned. The unanomous story I hear from my friends and pretty much every girl I've talked to about this, is that they felt like they were doing something wrong, dirty and in some cases, even a sin. This is part of a wider issue of men's pleasure coming first and women's coming second, or never at all.- the fact that 20% of women never have orgasms during intercourse, and about 80% fake orgasms to speed up men finishing because they are bored and/or fatigued. This also leads in to topics such as the use of women merely as sexual objects, and things used to sell stuff, but that's another post.
By releasing this song, whether she wrote it or not, she is joining a very, very small club of women who openly sing about female pleasure. Hailee Steinfeld has secrured herself a position in the growing group of women expressing themselves unabashedly and this is an incredibly powerful message to be sending, especially since she has such a wide reaching fan base, the majority of which is teenage girls.
With lyrics such as "Know how to satisfy / Keeping that tempo right without you" and "Got me speaking in tongues / The beautiful, it comes without you", this song is undoubtedly about masturbation, and I think that's great. Putting something that's normally taboo into the public eye (and the top ten!) is an incredible feat that is hopefully one more step on the road to female expression being as widely celebrated as male expression and sexuality.
Thanks Hailee.
While male self pleasure is widely accepted as something all boys will do, and are expected to do as soon as, or before, they reach puberty, female pleasure is shunned. The unanomous story I hear from my friends and pretty much every girl I've talked to about this, is that they felt like they were doing something wrong, dirty and in some cases, even a sin. This is part of a wider issue of men's pleasure coming first and women's coming second, or never at all.- the fact that 20% of women never have orgasms during intercourse, and about 80% fake orgasms to speed up men finishing because they are bored and/or fatigued. This also leads in to topics such as the use of women merely as sexual objects, and things used to sell stuff, but that's another post.
By releasing this song, whether she wrote it or not, she is joining a very, very small club of women who openly sing about female pleasure. Hailee Steinfeld has secrured herself a position in the growing group of women expressing themselves unabashedly and this is an incredibly powerful message to be sending, especially since she has such a wide reaching fan base, the majority of which is teenage girls.
With lyrics such as "Know how to satisfy / Keeping that tempo right without you" and "Got me speaking in tongues / The beautiful, it comes without you", this song is undoubtedly about masturbation, and I think that's great. Putting something that's normally taboo into the public eye (and the top ten!) is an incredible feat that is hopefully one more step on the road to female expression being as widely celebrated as male expression and sexuality.
Thanks Hailee.
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